Faith5byFive
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Post by Faith5byFive on Feb 24, 2010 9:35:36 GMT -5
Thats really great of you PJ getting the courage to post this not only here but to tell your parents and friends i think its really brave of you.
I think you should tell your parents and sister together because they should love you no matter what sexual orientation you are. They should still love you all the same and have more respect for you telling them. If anyone disagree's with it they are just pathetic because they should be happy that your happy.
*karma*
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Post by whitecandy on Feb 24, 2010 9:40:41 GMT -5
Ohhh someone took a karma off of me, i hope it wasn't because of my comment here. I know I can't give advice because I haven't been though it myself, but just wanted to be supportive...
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Darth Rosie
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Post by Darth Rosie on Feb 24, 2010 9:42:36 GMT -5
You know, sometimes this just happens (the taking Karma off) - but it can in no way have anything to do with your lovely and kind comment. I'll give you Karma to compensate!
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Post by Faith5byFive on Feb 24, 2010 9:43:38 GMT -5
People shouldn't take karma off you because you couldn't give advice. It was nice you commented here and supported PJ , Im not gay either but i wanted to share my thoughts and hopefully help PJ
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Post by whitecandy on Feb 24, 2010 9:48:35 GMT -5
Thank you Darth Rosenberg for the karma, and both of you for your nice comments I am quite new on this forum so am a little paranoid about upsetting people unintentionally, so am glad I haven't so far!
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Faith5byFive
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Post by Faith5byFive on Feb 24, 2010 9:51:03 GMT -5
I'll karma you too when ive got some more.
Im still kinda newish to the forum. If you wanna chat sometime just PM me (-:
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Post by whitecandy on Feb 24, 2010 9:52:14 GMT -5
Aw thanks so much, that's really nice
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Post by willow333 on Feb 24, 2010 10:19:56 GMT -5
Good Luck PJ! I know I was 16 when I realized I was, and then 18 when I finally told my parents. (I'm 24 now) I told my mom first, and she was devestated, she cried alot actually. She is now completely over that and loves my girlfriend as if she were her own daughter. She also has helped a friend of hers come to terms with the same situation with her daughter. My dad was the last to find out and he still has trouble with the big picture of things, such as marriage, children, etc, but he is doing really well at accepting.
On a side note, first time I told my best friend I was 16, and she actually threw up. Which is kinda funny now when I think about it, but not so funny then. It only took her about 2 weeks to come to her senses and now she would march in a parade with me if I asked her to.
Anyway, I guess my main point is that it takes people different times to adjust, but if they love you, they will get over it and accept you.
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Post by PJ on Feb 24, 2010 15:13:11 GMT -5
thanks again guys. although, im kinda getting nervous now, i think i might wait till the weekend to tell them. :[
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Post by Darth Rosie on Feb 24, 2010 16:47:08 GMT -5
*big virtual hug*
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Post by buffyfan21 on Feb 24, 2010 18:48:05 GMT -5
Hi PJ. First of all, I want to say I think it's great that you are being so open and honest about your sexuality. The most important thing is to remain true to yourself and never make apologies for the person that you are. Odds are, the people in your life that really love and care for you will accept you and be in your corner no matter what. At least, that's how it should be anyway. I think it's a really brave thing that you're doing and I wish you all the luck in the world! Know that all of us here are rooting for you, and although it's not the same as having the people in your real life, here at Slayalive you will always find an open-minded group of people to lend you support. Best of luck! And keep us posted!
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Post by PJ on Feb 24, 2010 21:10:01 GMT -5
lol. thanks! *virtual hugs back* Hi PJ. First of all, I want to say I think it's great that you are being so open and honest about your sexuality. The most important thing is to remain true to yourself and never make apologies for the person that you are. Odds are, the people in your life that really love and care for you will accept you and be in your corner no matter what. At least, that's how it should be anyway. I think it's a really brave thing that you're doing and I wish you all the luck in the world! Know that all of us here are rooting for you, and although it's not the same as having the people in your real life, here at Slayalive you will always find an open-minded group of people to lend you support. Best of luck! And keep us posted! it took a while to be comfortable with myself really. Through out middle school i thought i was, and i tried to deny it, and i said to myself that i would never let myself go that way. but now in 10th grade i have really thought about it and i feel that if i lie to myself it will be alot worse in the future. I can honestly say right now, i might not tell them this week or next week or even soon (which i know i said in my first post i was, but). But i can say right now, here, that im gay which is a HUGE step if you ask me, you know?
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Post by sarahcullen90 on Feb 24, 2010 23:11:11 GMT -5
Wow, I didn't realize how many GLB people were on this forum.... This is awesome! I'm personally very lucky. I'm bisexual myself. I came out my 10th grade year as well. My family is very supportive, but they kind of have to be. My grandma is a lesbian, my brother is gay, my cousin, my sister, my aunt, my mother, and myself are all bisexual. My fiance is also bisexual. My best friend is also a lesbian. It wasn't a big deal for me when I told my family that I was bi, at least on my mom's side. Even telling my stepmom was easier than telling my dad, although when my dad found out, he was like "at least if you are with a girl, you can't get pregnant." A little weird. Something that helped me when I was in school (as highschool students aren't usually as supportive) was that my school had a GLBT group with the school counselors. We talked about how we had come out and it was a good support system. Maybe see if your school has something like that? Good luck with coming out to your family. You will feel much better.
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Post by Iceeh★ on Feb 25, 2010 1:40:54 GMT -5
Yay PJ, I'm proud of you for being brave enough to do this!! I wish I had the courage to tell my parents, but unfortunately, I'm a little wimp (and I'm afraid that they'd never speak to me again, or something). Haha, though, my timeframe was pretty much the same as yours! Middle school was the "WHAT IS THIS, I can't like girls! Insanity!" stage, then in 10th grade I was all "Screw it, girls are hot." So uh, yeah, good luck!
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Post by PJ on Feb 25, 2010 6:38:53 GMT -5
lol. thanks.
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Post by CourtneyDax on Feb 25, 2010 22:23:50 GMT -5
Hey PJ! I'm a lesbian myself and I figured it out when I was around 13. My situation was different than most people because I instantly became severely depressed because I thought I couldn't tell anyone so some other stuff happened and I went to therapy and then my therapist encouraged me to come out and yadda yadda. Those months in the closet was THEE worst time of my young life, so I'm really happy that you've decided to come out and really show the person that you truly are. When I came out, it was an adjustment for my parents (and my mom still doesn't entirely believe it still) but they support me entirely while I figure out the rest of myself. I hope your parents are as supportive and patient as mine were. I wish you luck!
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Post by Faith5byFive on Feb 26, 2010 7:46:20 GMT -5
PJ you have alot of support from members of the forum. And it seems as thought they went through the same problems as you. You should tell your parents as soon as possible because if you put it off then it it will seem worse than it actually is. Your parents and friends should acept you for what you are otherwise they are loosers.
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Post by PJ on Feb 26, 2010 8:56:38 GMT -5
Hey PJ! I'm a lesbian myself and I figured it out when I was around 13. My situation was different than most people because I instantly became severely depressed because I thought I couldn't tell anyone so some other stuff happened and I went to therapy and then my therapist encouraged me to come out and yadda yadda. Those months in the closet was THEE worst time of my young life, so I'm really happy that you've decided to come out and really show the person that you truly are. When I came out, it was an adjustment for my parents (and my mom still doesn't entirely believe it still) but they support me entirely while I figure out the rest of myself. I hope your parents are as supportive and patient as mine were. I wish you luck! thanks!
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Post by buffyfan21 on Feb 26, 2010 19:21:50 GMT -5
lol. thanks! *virtual hugs back* Hi PJ. First of all, I want to say I think it's great that you are being so open and honest about your sexuality. The most important thing is to remain true to yourself and never make apologies for the person that you are. Odds are, the people in your life that really love and care for you will accept you and be in your corner no matter what. At least, that's how it should be anyway. I think it's a really brave thing that you're doing and I wish you all the luck in the world! Know that all of us here are rooting for you, and although it's not the same as having the people in your real life, here at Slayalive you will always find an open-minded group of people to lend you support. Best of luck! And keep us posted! it took a while to be comfortable with myself really. Through out middle school i thought i was, and i tried to deny it, and i said to myself that i would never let myself go that way. but now in 10th grade i have really thought about it and i feel that if i lie to myself it will be alot worse in the future. I can honestly say right now, i might not tell them this week or next week or even soon (which i know i said in my first post i was, but). But i can say right now, here, that im gay which is a HUGE step if you ask me, you know? I completely agree. You have to be true to yourself, otherwise it's just going to eat you alive inside and you will be miserable. Nobody deserves to have to live that way. Everyone deserves happiness and I wish you all the best.
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Post by Jaz ♀♀ on Feb 26, 2010 20:55:02 GMT -5
I always knew that i liked girls since elementary school but i didn't know what that meant (being gay) until i started middle school (i was like 12 or 13). My friends were all having crushes on boys and they would tell me "which guy do you like?"....and that's when i realized that apparently i'm "supposed" to like boys when instead i had a major crush on one of my girl friends at the time, which then terrified the crap out of me because when i was younger i was incredibly shy and all i wanted was to have friends and not be the shy loner girl. So all through middle school i completely denied my feelings and i would get so angry at myself for having these "unnatural" feelings that wouldn't go away and i remember being so depressed with no one to talk too. I didn't want to tell my friends because i didn't want to lose them, i'm an only child so i had no close brother or sister to confide in, and i was scared to tell my mom because i didn't want to disappoint her. It wasn't until the end of my freshman year in high school that i accepted to myself that i was gay. It then took two more years to work on my self esteem and courage to come out. By that time the only person i cared on what she thought of me after telling her i was gay was my mom. I admit i'm a complete mommas girl and proud of it, she raised me all by herself and i couldn't ask for a better mom. So when the day came to tell her, i planed this whole BBQ outside for just the two of us and we ate and joked around and talked about random things and just had an awesome time. I then started to loose my nerve to tell her and so before i lost it completely i said "mom i need to tell you something". so we sat down and she just sits there smiling at me waiting for me to start and that's when i loose it. I just start crying and she then gets all scared and worried and asks what's wrong. And then i remember getting mad at myself because i'm ruining this perfect day and i can't utter those two words and be free of it all. And before i could say anything and let her know i'm ok she asks all concerned "Are you pregnant??" Which then made me laugh. She then get's mad because she's still worried and doesn't know what's wrong and so i say to her that everything is fine and that what i'm gonna tell her is very good news. She then smiled and waits patiently again while i take a few breaths. Then without even thinking i say "Mom, I'm gay"....I swear after i said that, instantly this invisible weight off my chest and shoulders came off....and it felt good! So after i said that she's just sitting there trying to process it all and at that point i'm still crying and it feels like her response is taking an eternity which then i get scared thinking she doesn't love me anymore which i then think she saw in my eyes because she instantly gets up from her chair and comes over and gives me a big hug and says "I still love you know matter what."....so flash forward 5min later after we both finished crying we sit back down in our chairs and she say's "You know what mija? (which means 'my daughter' in spanish), i've always knew you were.".....i was so shocked when i heard that. I said "how'd you know, I thought i hid it pretty well." And she say's "I'm your mother, I know these things.".....so i start laughing and she starts laughing and we ended are little BBQ and watched movies all night. So that's my coming out story....It took sometime for her to fully accept and be ok with me being gay but it all worked out in the end...the most important thing is being true to yourselft. I hope my rambling story helped a little. And i promise you that after you come out, you will feel so much better. Good luck!
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