SlayerCommaThe
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"Don't try to to touch my ass. Without asking." -Yelle <3[Mo0:10]
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Post by SlayerCommaThe on Nov 5, 2010 21:59:11 GMT -5
Hmm...Can I claim everyone? Eveyone's been so nice... Since I can't...could I get ScaryGothGirl? GaGa~Vampyr
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Iceeh★
Bad Ass Wicca
Also, Angels.
Somewhere, along in the bitterness.[Mo0:7]
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Post by Iceeh★ on Nov 5, 2010 22:28:26 GMT -5
S'very lame, I don't understand this rule if you've already upset three people with it. (and soon to be four, by the looks of Jess' post...)
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Miss. Rogueh
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Post by Miss. Rogueh on Nov 5, 2010 23:01:50 GMT -5
It is to help make people feel more included... if you claim the person that claims you, it causes the site to break into couples... that isn't very community like so now you are forced to claim someone else, who then claims someone else and so on and so forth. I like it
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Post by Angel Beast on Nov 5, 2010 23:23:07 GMT -5
It is to help make people feel more included... if you claim the person that claims you, it causes the site to break into couples... that isn't very community like so now you are forced to claim someone else, who then claims someone else and so on and so forth. I like it Wow no lie that made me think of Wayne's World 2 where Wayne says "You know how these things start... one guy tells another guy something, then he tells two friends, and they tell two friends, and they tell their friends, and so on, and so on..."
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Danner
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Post by Danner on Nov 5, 2010 23:29:23 GMT -5
It is to help make people feel more included... if you claim the person that claims you, it causes the site to break into couples... that isn't very community like so now you are forced to claim someone else, who then claims someone else and so on and so forth. I like it I understand it, but... ... we are a couple. D:
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Iceeh★
Bad Ass Wicca
Also, Angels.
Somewhere, along in the bitterness.[Mo0:7]
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Post by Iceeh★ on Nov 5, 2010 23:36:35 GMT -5
^ Yeah, exactly... so I want claimage
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Post by Skytteflickan88 on Nov 6, 2010 1:13:57 GMT -5
I see your side, I understand, but think that it could get bad without the rule. The way I see it, people can be annoyed because they can't claim who claimed them. Or they can be annoyed because they feel obligated to claim who claimed them. Call me or my opinion lame if you want Iceeh, but realize that I won't change my mind and you're making my happy-thread a sad-thread, and it's kind of hurtful, since I wanted this to be a fun thing, and instead you're telling me it's lame. It is to help make people feel more included... if you claim the person that claims you, it causes the site to break into couples... that isn't very community like so now you are forced to claim someone else, who then claims someone else and so on and so forth. I like it Thank you for understanding. I didn't even think of it like that, sound better than my reason, people being guilted into claiming, thus not having fun. -EDIT Miss. Rogueh, I added "and so people don't "couple up.")" to the first post, to add your reason to the rule.
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Post by nl197 on Nov 6, 2010 1:33:22 GMT -5
Threads like this are why I limit coming here now. This place is just too closed in to outsiders. Too close a community to be included in. I'm sure this will get plenty of "dislikes" or "karma" points taken away but that's just how I feel. Of course the response to that could be "then take your business elsewhere".
I guess it'll be a game of "wait and see".
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Post by Eric on Nov 6, 2010 1:38:50 GMT -5
Threads like this are why I limit coming here now. This place is just too closed in to outsiders. Too close a community to be included in. I'm sure this will get plenty of "dislikes" or "karma" points taken away but that's just how I feel. Of course the response to that could be "then take your business elsewhere". I guess it'll be a game of "wait and see". Eh. I don't really get what the issue is. With the exception of me, SlayAlive is a generally nice, welcoming place. We've all been in the same position as you. You've just got to jump in and get to know people.
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Post by Skytteflickan88 on Nov 6, 2010 1:50:46 GMT -5
I'm sorry you feel that way NL197. I don't see how this thread is unwelcoming to strangers, or how slayalive in general, but I realize I'm not objective, having been here for quite some time, and not having experienced how a lot of other forums work. Hopefully a new game will start at the new forum soon, they always seem to create a lot of talk among members, old and new, and create bonds. And as you can see, the ones disagreeing with each other in this thread are "old timers". No newbies will be bitten. And Eric, you're just a little rough around the edges, you're still very welcoming. You're currently my favorite person online. Not just on this forum.
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Talkie Toaster
Junior Vampire Slayer
I'm not a god, I was misquoted
I'm really Lurchibald.. shhhhhh[Mo0:16]
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Post by Talkie Toaster on Nov 6, 2010 2:43:01 GMT -5
Well, i don't really post here very often i mainly post here in the off-topic section and rarely (if ever) discuss things in other sections like the buffy/firefly/dollhouse etc sections but i still feel as welcome here as anyone else.
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Miss. Rogueh
Wise-cracking Techno Genius
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Post by Miss. Rogueh on Nov 6, 2010 3:18:18 GMT -5
Threads like this are why I limit coming here now. This place is just too closed in to outsiders. Too close a community to be included in. I'm sure this will get plenty of "dislikes" or "karma" points taken away but that's just how I feel. Of course the response to that could be "then take your business elsewhere". I guess it'll be a game of "wait and see". I think the reason you feel this way is you can't make a connection with "us" (i use this term to describe the members) You don't want to share any of yourself, so we don't want to share with you... it is nothing against you, i am sure you are a wonderful person and would add greatly to the collective, but just like in real life bonds and frienships take time, commitment, and general compassion for other people. I felt like an outsider too at first, but then I started telling people a little more about my life, and listening and caring when others were talking about theirs. Now I can't tell you how many Slay Aliver's have came to me to ask advice about their off line life. It takes time, and putting yourself out there... listening... ( but then again, what do I know, I am just a nameless faceless person on the vast internet.) This thread isn't suposted to make people feel like they are insiders, or outsiders, it was for fun. I'm sorry if it is making people feel bad, or hurt... but maybe instead of feeling this way, you should claim someone random, and then get to know that person... say "I Claim RandomSlayAliveUser" and then pm that person and say, "I have seen you around the site, you make great/helpful/insightful posts and I wanted to get to know you better." It isn't that hard to break into the "group" it just takes someone that wants to... This may be out of line, but I am starting to wonder if you do want to, or if you just like whining about not feeling included, because this isn't your first "oh I'm an outsider" post.... As far as Karma goes...I don't think anyone should deduct Karma or dislike your post, because you are just posting how you feel... just some thoughts...
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Astray
Initiative Soldier
Comfortador
It eats you starting with your bottom.[Mo0:30]
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Post by Astray on Nov 6, 2010 4:35:47 GMT -5
I can definitely see where NL197 is coming from. I hope you don't feel like you're being ganged up on. This game is cliquey. Obviously people will be left out. I think Sky realized that when she added the rule of not claiming your claimer so it would force people to include people outside of their inner circle. Rogueh and Eric have a point though. The only way for people to get to know each other is to put yourself out there.
Also, this is the Bronze, so I'm not surprised when I see stuff like this pop up that doesn't cater to new members but this would be the place to put it. I don't think any "insider"-ness carries over into any other forums besides the Bronze. That's my two cents.
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Post by Skytteflickan88 on Nov 6, 2010 11:35:50 GMT -5
Actually, it didn't occur to me that people might feel left out when I made the rule (maybe on a subconsious level). That's probably something I should consider. I guess I finally got used to belonging to a forum again, really belonging, that I forgot what it was like first coming here. I think it's cool that we all have formed bonds here over the years, but I've always assumed that just because we're a tight group, doesn't mean we won't let other people in. This makes me kind of sad, to think we're not as friendly and welcoming as I thought. I was hoping people would come, be shy, try to slowly get along with everyone else, or maybe throw themselves into the mix, and we'd accept them, and hopefully one day also become close. This is the first time in a long time I heard complaints about slayalive, from slayalivers. But I get it. Threads like these have always made me feel both left out and hopeful in the past, so I get where you are coming from NL. I saw a group I wanted to be a part of, but I also saw that it might take a while to get there. And now I'm here, happy, actually popular for once, and I guess it made me blind. ...... I am popular, aren't I? People talk to me, laugh with me, give me karma, nominate me for stuff, so I just assumed. You like me, right?
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Danner
Respected Watcher
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Post by Danner on Nov 6, 2010 13:04:35 GMT -5
I like ya, Sky.
IDK if I matter much, but yeah.
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Post by wenxina on Nov 6, 2010 13:28:10 GMT -5
I only ever laugh at you, Sky. Never with you.
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The Night Lord
Wise-cracking Sidekick
The Long Kiss Goodnight
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Post by The Night Lord on Nov 6, 2010 17:26:04 GMT -5
I'm making a claim for Danner
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Danner
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Post by Danner on Nov 6, 2010 17:50:40 GMT -5
I'm making a claim for DannerAhaha, thanks!
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Post by PJ on Nov 6, 2010 19:21:21 GMT -5
Threads like this are why I limit coming here now. This place is just too closed in to outsiders. Too close a community to be included in. I'm sure this will get plenty of "dislikes" or "karma" points taken away but that's just how I feel. Of course the response to that could be "then take your business elsewhere". I guess it'll be a game of "wait and see". hmmm. im sorry you feel that way.......but i mean this thread is only meant for fun, and to even make more friends! just because alot of the slayalive community has uber good friends around here doesn't mean we do not like new people or what you call "outsiders". I have found to like alot of newbies!
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Randi Giles
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I Want to Believe
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Post by Randi Giles on Nov 6, 2010 19:56:08 GMT -5
I don't discriminate. I love all my Slayalive family! Old and new! ;D
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