Do You Believe In "Soulmates"?

[AngelFaith]

I was watching Friends the other day and it was the episode where Phoebe finds Monica's "soulmate" and it got me thinking about the term and if they really exist.

Me, I've always loved the idea of soulmates but I don't think that I truly believe in them. I think that there are people that you can connect to on a deeper level than others and that certain partners work better together, but I don't really believe that there is one "perfect" partner out there for everyone. I think you meet someone, fall in love and work really hard at making things work out. Sometimes it fails, sometimes they go on to be the great love of your life. But the whole meeting someone and knowing that they're your "soulmate" seems a little too far-fetched for me.

What does everyone else think?

[Talkie Toaster]

I don't believe in soulmates. You can never meet anyone that meets your "Perfect" partner requirements all you can do is get close and have as much fun as possible!

[whitecandy]

I am an old romantic and I do believe in soul mates, or something like it. I believe that there are several people out there who could be a great partner for me, for many varied reasons, and that I could live with and be happy with, but I believe that there is only one person that can make me feel entirely complete and make my heart bounce in a way that no one else can. That person that it is just so natural to be with, that the world doesn't seem quite right without them, like a part of me is missing when they are not there. I have had relationships that I have been happy in with lovely people (not all at once though lol) but there was always that little niggle that there was something not quite right on a deeper level, that my heart ached for that someone that my heart was made to beat for...

[elenasaur]

I just watched Timer last night, and it has had me thinking about soul mates as well. (If you don't know the premise of the movie, basically science has discovered a way to countdown to the moment you meet your soul mate.)

It was interesting. I've never really believed in soul mates. The thought depresses me a little, actually. The world is a pretty massive place. There's no guarantee that your soul mate will live on the same continent as you, let alone actually meet you, right? I'd like to think that with all the billions of people out there, there is more than one single person who could make me happy.

And then I have to wonder, if humans have soul mates, do animals? I feel like most people don't think about animals having souls, but they're not that far off from us. Most animals don't mate for life. But we try to. I don't know if that is a worthwhile separation on the part of humans from the rest of the animal kingdom, or if it's just denying facts.

It's not like I dismiss love as a purely scientific mix of hormones and chemicals. I just think it comes naturally. No preternatural force behind it or anything. Some people are compatible, and some people aren't, and some people will stick together, with or without 'sparks'.

[drusillacakes]

I used to believe in soulmates, but I think it was the romantic and the dreamer in me. If there was such a thing, we wouldn't get our hearts as broken as often as we do. (That's the cynic in me... ah, ignore her. She's no fun.)

But in all honesty, I agree with you guys. I believe that compatibility exists, and there are people out there we are more mutually compatible with than others. I guess it also depends on what you're looking for. For some, being with a person who meets the compatibility requirement but lacks the fiery spark is just not enough. For others, it's enough to have a companion. I haven't decided which side I'm on, but I think I want that spark. It doesn't necessarily have to come from just one person.

There's this movie I love called Broken English. One of my favorite quotes is from this film-- "Most people are together just so they are not alone. But some people want magic. I think you are one of those people."

[Jezebel Jinx]

Yes and no.

Here's what I mean. Do I believe in soulmates yes. Do I think there is only one soulmate out there for a person no.

I've always thought that it was depressing to only have one soulmate in all the world. Because what are the chances that you'd actually meet that one person. Which is why I'm of the opinion that there's more like a cluster of people that are just right for a person.

Is it romantic to only have one soulmate...sure if you're one of the lucky ones who found that one soulmate. But for me I think that there is more than one person that can be your soulmate.

[Angel Beast]

I believe in soulmates but not like romantic partners but someone that you share a bond with. Like you have a connection that you don't with anybody else. My best friend is my soulmate her and I never dated but the two of us have a shared connection we don't have with others. We know when the other is upset or something bad has happened to each other with out being near each other.

[Hellbound Hyperion]

Doesn't the idea of a "soulmate" depend on your belief in a "soul"? Food for thought... 'cause I'm always torn on this concept.

[The Girl In Question]

Eh....no. :/

[Jsebold87]

I'm a romantic, so I like to believe that there is that perfect person out there for all of us. I don't think it's necessarily one person, I think there's a number of people out there who could be the right one for you.

I like the concept of that one person though. I don't find it depressing, I just love the idea. I think meeting your soulmate has to do with fate as well. I like to think that if there is a certain person out there that you're meant to be with, that your paths will cross eventually somehow.

I've never been in love, I hope that I do find that one person someday, and don't let them slip by.

[Billie Erin]

I'm not sure really, I mean if there was really only one person for everyone out of 6 billion then none of us would veer find our soulmates, rendering them just silly. I believe you can love more than one person, in different ways, but I still don't reject the idea that there is one person in the world that you are better suited to than any other, I just don't think you HAVE to be with them.

[Scarygothgirl]

I believe in compatability but not soulmates.

But then I feel like I'm already married but have lost my husband somewhere or other, so when I'm looking for a partener I'm looking for a specific person rather than someone compattable. Which could count as me believing I have a soulmate, but I imagine it's more to do with me being crazy.

[N.D.U.O]

Another problem with having only one soulmate is: say you meet the person of your dreams and your very much in love. They're your soulmate. And then they die. Does mean you should die alone? And if you do find someone else, is that relationship doomed to failure? And that relationship is better than the first one, does it diminish the first relationship in your eyes?

With all the vampire and werewolf (non-Twilight) romances I read that always bugs me...

[Astray]

Its a nice concept. If I was in love with someone I would probably like to think that we were destined soulmates. That is until he ruins my life and turns out to be a total jerk. Then I'd be forced to believe that as humans our standards lower everyday. As we age and our looks fade we end up settling for some old divorcee with a beer gut and ketchup stains on his shirt just to put an end to the years of spending each night alone in your dark basement playing charades with your 20 cats..

Seriously, I don't think I believe in it. I think the idea is sort of based on someone who completes you, solves the puzzle, yin to your yang. If you don't find this person that is a depressing thought. I like to think of myself as complete on my own. Good relationships are just the frosting on the cake of life. I'd be very suspicious if I found a seemingly "perfect" person...

[Inappropriate Starches]

I dont' really believe in soulmates, I get the appeal sort of, but at the same time I find it a little depressing. If there is only one person in the world for you it sounds exhausting, lol. Also it seems unlikely as so many people say they found their soulmate, but as i said it would be rather daunting to find. lol.

however in all seriousness, I believe there are people more compatible and it's good when you end up with the person you feel was meant for you, but i don't know if they were actually meant for you. Either way as long as who you end up with makes you happy, soulmate or not, that's great!

[Scarygothgirl]

Alot of people see it the way that they're a complete person on their own, they don't need a soulmate, but if they do find someone that makes them happy then that's great. But I really do feel like I'm only half a person and my whole reason for living is to wait 'til I meet my husband, and then I'll have something to live for.

[loveisabird]

I do believe in Soul Mates. Soul mates can be family members, best friends or your lover. I think its when u find this deep connection with a person and you feel lost if this person/these people are not about. The people you NEED to speak to and get what you mean, and know you inside and out.

The X Files had an episode about past lives and souls which had a beautiful idea I loved and I'd like to think its true. Its about souls re-uniting in each lifetime but you come back as different relationships to each other. e.g your best friend could have been your child in a past life. I think thats amazing.

"The souls... come back together... different... but always together... again and again... to learn."

P.s A lot of fans hated that episode LOL. I loved it though.

[Zeb]

Jul 8, 2010 11:17:47 GMT -5 elenasaur said:

I just watched Timer last night, and it has had me thinking about soul mates as well.

I watched Timer recently, too! And the movie did start making me think about the idea of soulmates. I am quite romantic at times, but I'm also too realistic to believe in just "one" person out there.

I don't like to think that there's only one person for me because it's almost idealizing someone and it's just a belief to set up oneself for disappointment and possibly missing out on great people around you.

That said, however, I do think there are a few people out there for everyone who can be considered "soulmates" (I just don't know if I would use that term).

[Skytteflickan88]

I believe in slutmates. People who are equaly slutty and gutterminded and who is comfortable in each other's company.

[Eric]

Personally, I prefer the term "soulsluts".