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Post by PJ on Aug 24, 2010 16:13:29 GMT -5
my goodness. that sterotype bothers me to no end. I'm gay and i do not have a high voice, nor do i act really girly! and people just need to accept the fact that being gay is not wrong, and they need to realize that we are not going to stop being who we are just because you "hate" us for no reason.
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Post by Danner on Aug 24, 2010 16:15:53 GMT -5
TGIQ, I know exactly what you mean. I get treated like that a lot because I'm nice and shy and won't/don't do drugs and things... D: Just as you can learn what to do from your family, you can learn what NOT to do as well. I guess people just forget that, sometimes.
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Post by SOMNAMBULIST 2.0 on Aug 24, 2010 16:23:16 GMT -5
Every lesbian that I know does have a man haircut and never wears girly clothes. But Willow and Tara made me think that they don't have to look like that, that they can be girly.
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Post by Astray on Aug 24, 2010 16:58:37 GMT -5
@the gay stereotype issue: I always found this to be pretty interesting. Sometimes when I see a really queen/camp/fem guy, I wonder if that is their true personality or just a reaction to the image of gay men they see around them. Playing the "fabulous" gay guy in a social situation can sometimes be advantageous because its almost being the "class clown" of sorts... This doesn't bother me too much, so it's more of an observation. As a college-aged Indian guy people tend to assume you're in college and have your shiz together. I've had two doctors pretty much assume that I went to UCLA this year. When in fact I'm not a business, law, or science major but an aspiring art student currently in community college hoping to draw cartoons for a living. I wish the stereotype that all asians are good with numbers was true, then I wouldn't have had to take geometry twice in high school I also don't like the stereotype that I have money because of the way I dress or present myself. This happened a lot in high school, but seemingly less often now. I don't know if this one qualifies as a stereotype but I'm very quiet because of my social anxiety and sometimes people assume that I'm a snob, when I'm really just shy.
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Post by Angel Beast on Aug 24, 2010 17:21:13 GMT -5
my goodness. that sterotype bothers me to no end. I'm gay and i do not have a high voice, nor do i act really girly! and people just need to accept the fact that being gay is not wrong, and they need to realize that we are not going to stop being who we are just because you "hate" us for no reason. Hollywood is what has caused people to perceive gay men and women as a certain. If you watch Mel Brooks' The Producer every single Hollywood stereotypes of gay can be found in it. Some I hate, don't know if they're stereotypes when I tell people I'm part German people usually make a nazi or Hitler joke, or that I'm part Italian some mafia jokes. Luckily I got nothing for also being Irish an Native Americans
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Post by Scarygothgirl on Aug 24, 2010 18:01:40 GMT -5
Another one I hate is people assuming that I'm a hypocritical evil bitch because I'm religious. Every time there's a preist or someone who does something bad or says something judgemental my friends always turn to me and say 'that's one of your lot that is'. Not all christians hate gays. If you want to look at what the bible says it does not say you should be mean to everyone who does something you dissapprove of. What the bible says is that you should show love to everyone, no matter if you think they're a sinner or not, it's not your job to judge.
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Post by Iceeh★ on Aug 24, 2010 18:18:52 GMT -5
People assume that because I'm reserved (around strangers/acquaintances, at least), I'm either:
A) Shy as a mouse and/or hardcore religious B) Aloof and world hating
Option B is partly true, but it annoys me when I'm described to others as 'shy'. I just don't like talking to people when it's not required.
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Post by Scarygothgirl on Aug 24, 2010 18:33:17 GMT -5
I'm apparently loud and outgoing when I'm around my friends so people refuse to believe that I'm shy and think I'm making fun of them when I get nervous around new people.
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Post by whitecandy on Aug 25, 2010 7:26:44 GMT -5
I am blonde, girlie and can be quite ditsy and head in the clouds sometimes, so people assume that I am stupid. I love the look on their faces when I tell them about all my years at University and legal qualifications, they never know what to say People assume I am a vampire mad goth because I love Buffy, and everytime there is a new vampire or dark type show on they go crazy in telling me. I am not obsessed with vampires and blood, I am obsessed with Buffy! She could be a mechanic and I would feel the same about the show! Ok so maybe not a mechanic, but you know what I mean...
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Post by Skytteflickan88 on Aug 25, 2010 9:39:14 GMT -5
I'm not a blonde beautiful blue eyed Swedish girl. I'm a Swedish fat brown/green/gray eyed brunette. :ยด( Not that hurtful a stereotype tough
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Post by AngelFaith on Aug 26, 2010 16:28:18 GMT -5
I hate it when I'm labelled a slut as soon as people find out I've had one night stands/casual sex. There are a lot of people who have and will give me this title before they ever really know anything about me.
Another one I don't really hate, but that does get annoying, is when people figure out that I'm Indian (my looks can be ambiguous sometimes) they automatically start making "jokes" about how I must be about to marry a rich doctor, etc. I'm Anglo-Indian, which means I have Scottish and English heritage, and my family is extremely westernised. My boyfriend is white and I didn't go to Uni. I don't fill the Indian good-girl stereotype at all, and I never have.
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Post by N.D.U.O on Aug 31, 2010 13:03:54 GMT -5
I hate the 'angry black woman' stereotype. I hate even more that its half-true. I'm not an angry person. I'm well mannered, educated and brought up. I don't appreciate people either assuming that I have a criminal record or that I secretly want to be white.
A problem is that the stereotype is often true. But I think its a self-fulfilling prophecy. Not only are a lot of black girls angry (but not anywhere near all and they wont attack you without reason) but the ones who aren't abandon most of their blackness.
It's hard being me. I don't fit anywhere. Black people (and sometimes Christians) don't like my love of metal. My obsession with grammar and my inappropriatness. Metal people don't like my blackness, that I like to listen to Pop and hip hop and that I'm a Christian. Oh well. I tend to react by pissing them off.
I also get called a devil worshipper. And people get a 'i didn't know she was one of them' looks on their faces when they hear my religion.
These days I get stereotyped because of my religion more than my race. Can someone tell me why? Seriously. I'm wondering.
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Post by SOMNAMBULIST 2.0 on Aug 31, 2010 13:25:47 GMT -5
I don't know the reason, N.D.U.O, but I can say that that is crap.
That is crap. You shouldn't be labelled a slut just because you have had one night stands. If you can't find a special person, then that is alright. But the desire for sexual interaction can get unbearable until you just have to do something about it.
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Anyways, my friend lives in the house next to me. His Uncle is my father's friend, and my friend's mother is also living there. But one day, I was told by my friend that his mother thought I was a bad kid. I think it was just because I am kinda a big kid, in the way of weight and height. I find this insulting because I'm guessing that she thinks I'm like my asshole father. This is a stereotype, but I'm not sure how to classify it.
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Post by N.D.U.O on Aug 31, 2010 15:17:45 GMT -5
I think sometimes parents make themselves feel better about their own children by insulting others. One of my best friends mom tells her that I am a bad influence even with no evidenc3 what so ever.
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Post by Skytteflickan88 on Sept 1, 2010 3:44:17 GMT -5
I read a lot about mythology, nature religions and wicca teachings in my teens, because I was curious about religion and like the idea of there being something out there, and I tried to figure out if that was possible.
My mom and I had lots of fights when I was living with her (dad and mom got a divorce and moved apart when I was 18, and I lived manily with my dad after that) and one time she called me a witch. I didn't have a problem with her thinking I was a witch, since I didn't think it was bad to beliveve in magic and/or think that nature should be respected, I hated that she used it as an insult, specially since she had no idea what she was talking about. She just wanted to hurt me. I can't remember what we were arguing about, or who's fault it was (you would think that as my mother she would always take the high road, but nope), or what brought it on, but it hurt. Partly because voice inside me told me that I was ridicolous for even dreaming of there being something out there. And today, I'm kind of agreeing with that voice more than disgreeing. I try to think "Nothing's impossible, there could be something", but it's hard not to tell people they're wrong.
I hate that so many people seem to think that anyone who believes in something they don't, act like they're insane, or bad people. Even people who believe in one religion can look down on other religious believers, if they don't think the same think, even tough they have the same amount non existent proof as they do.
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Post by jellymoff on Sept 1, 2010 8:18:09 GMT -5
It's hard being me. I don't fit anywhere. Black people (and sometimes Christians) don't like my love of metal. My obsession with grammar and my inappropriatness. Metal people don't like my blackness, that I like to listen to Pop and hip hop and that I'm a Christian. Oh well. I tend to react by pissing them off. I also get called a devil worshipper. And people get a 'i didn't know she was one of them' looks on their faces when they hear my religion. These days I get stereotyped because of my religion more than my race. Can someone tell me why? Seriously. I'm wondering. I can see where you are coming from. Growing up, I never knew where I fit it. Black people teased me and called me an "Oreo" because I like rock music (along with hip-hop and a lot of other things) and am well-spoken. White people didn't necessarily accept me either, because I'm black. There were always individuals though, true friends, that stuck by me and loved me for who I am. I had to learn that being myself is the only way I can be. I used to try to "Act Black" around black people and "Act White" around white people. This is way too exhausting. I also had to let go of my own sterotypes and stop assuming that people are not going to like me for who I am.
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Post by Skytteflickan88 on Sept 1, 2010 8:43:17 GMT -5
^^ Sucks when people think of you a certain way, or act a certain way around you because of the way you look.
I always tried to think of it this way as a child, when I felt I would never get any boyfriends because I'm ugly: If people don't want to be friends or boyfriends with me for shallow reasons, I'm better off without them. My face takes care of the screening process. And the friends I do get will be true friends.
Of course, that's a bunch of bull, since creeps could think I'm a easy lay because I'm "less attractive" and hang around, and even good people can be shallow and want to try to become friends with pretty people before talking to people like me, but it's still true that I'm better off without those too shallow people.
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Post by Billie Erin on Sept 1, 2010 13:16:35 GMT -5
^^^ I'm sure you're not ugly like you seem to think Sky; we're all our own worst critics.
But you're right about it being good to avoid shallow people, you don't want a boyfriend who only likes you because he thinks you're attractive.
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Post by orangejuicepony on Sept 1, 2010 14:13:08 GMT -5
two things
1- I am an atheist, so alot of people tend to assume that means I have to morals and hate all religious people. Very untrue on both parts. I have religious friends and I disagree with them, but it doesn't mean that I think they are stupid. People just tend to assume because I don't believe in god I must look down on everyone who does. So untrue, I understand peoples reasons for believing in god, and most of the reasons are very understandable to me. I dont hate religious people. Also I see myself as a moral person. I try my best not to hurt others in any way, just like most people do. I give money to charity, I do community service. I'm not a bad person, I just don't belive in god.
2- I am bisexual. I am attracted to both men and women. I am not lying when I say this. I am not trying to impress men. But all the same I have trouble finding women who would be wiling to date me, because they feel that I would leave them for a guy. This is also untrue, I like men and women equally, and I like them based more on thier personalities than looks. I would really appreciate it if everyone would stop assuming that bisexual means "will kiss girl, to impress man." Or that I just want to have sex with everyone. I want to have sex with the people who I feel mentally attracted to, which is definitely not everyone.
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Post by SOMNAMBULIST 2.0 on Sept 1, 2010 15:29:56 GMT -5
Same here, OJP, for the first one. I don't believe in God, but I do believe that there is some higher power in the world that has made everything come to life. I don't look down on religious people, I don't think they are stupid. I think of everyone in the world as equal, excluding the people who don't.
And for number two, I'm not exactly sure what I am. I know I'm not straight, but...I prefer men more than women, though I do have crushes on some females. It's so weird. It's like...I don't want to have sexual interactions with females, but with males. I don't want to kiss women, but men. But I think both females and males are hot...Confusing, huh.
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